Home-Making While Writing

I identify with Ariel's comment 100%. I had never dated and had no intention of dating let alone marrying. I had re-devoted myself to God and formed a bond with Him I never had before, and I didn't want anything interfering with that (or, I will admit, the plans I had for my own life).

But immediately after that, God began (very quickly) sewing seeds, putting a spotlight on my now husband who had only been a kind client at work until that season of life. I had no feelings or attraction at the time, but God kept pointing to him in a number of ways and next thing I knew, that kind client turned out to be an incredible man and a coffee date turned into a wedding.

God's timing and blessings are a mysterious thing. Again I had no real desire for a relationship, and I figured God would save those blessings for a young woman who did desire it. But He knows me better than I do, and His timing, plan, and understanding is beyond my comprehension.

Another thing I will say - society preaches waiting well into adulthood for marriage and families. That is an unnecessary generalization. I began dating my husband on the cusp of twenty, and we married when I was twenty one. Now I am twenty two, and we're ready to have children.

The key is to surrender all to God, to trust His guidance, and to use tact and intention when dating. That's all. That may happen when you're 19, it may happen when you're 50, but regardless so long as you pursue God above all else, it will occur in His perfect timing. We overcomplicate things too much.

Last point - homemaking doesn't require a husband. Whether you still live with your parents or you live by yourself or with roommates, you still have a place you live in and you can participate in making it a home.